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Avoid Confrontations

If you have an anger problem it is advisable to avoid confrontations as far as possible when you know that you will lose control of your temper. There are certain areas where people are more prone to anger than others. A good example is when a group of people begin discussing their local or national governments and politics. Many participants in such a discussion take everything that is said personally and this can cause a confrontation and the anger can be sparked off. Before you know it you have a violent situation on hand.

Avoid discussing subjects with your colleagues that you know will become confrontational. If you cannot avoid where the discussion is going rather leave the room so that you will not become part of where the conversation is going.

Learn to know yourself and your anger level. Avoid places where you know there will be confrontations. Do not set yourself up for unnecessary arguments which will lead to your anger taking over the situation.

You can constantly be working on your self to avoid confrontation and not to lose your temper unnecessarily but the fact remains that this emotion can flare up at any time. Anger is part of the human makeup. The point is to be in control of the emotion when you are angered and not let the anger control you. As I have said before take grandma's advice and count to ten before replying to any provocation.

By trying to see the other persons' point of view is a wonderful way of defusing confrontation. By pausing a moment and realising that each one is entitled to their own point of view makes you realise that you are not always right and should listen to others as well.

Many outbursts of anger come from negative thoughts. If we see everything as negative we have a lot of anger inside us. This anger is always just waiting to be revealed. By changing your thought patterns you can do a lot to become a happier person and you will not be provoked so easily.

It takes time to train your mind from negative to positive but it can be done. Every time a negative thought comes into your mind ask yourself why do you think the situation will be negative? Change this thought into a positive one and you will see so many more possibilities in life. You will become happier and calmer and this will certainly make it worthwhile to change your thoughts.

One day you might just be in a bad mood and someone will say something that triggers off your anger. This will make you bring up all the past suppressed grievances and a flood of verbal abuse will be the result. This is disconcerting for those in your company.

It is better to express anger in a civilised way when it is necessary than to have occasional outbursts of temper.

By constantly keeping your anger suppressed you are actually doing yourself more harm than good. In the end you could start becoming withdrawn and trying to convince yourself that everything is fine when actually it is not. This can lead to depression and it could take some time to get out of this state. The last thing you want to do is to get into this state of mind.

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